If you have found yourself here, I am so sorry for your loss.

Losing a baby is one of the most devastating things parents and whānau can go through. There is often no clear template, ritual, or shared understanding of how people are “meant” to grieve the loss of a pēpi/baby. For most, this is not something they ever thought they may have needed to consider.

When facing the loss of (or complex diagnosis for) a baby, it can feel overwhelming to make decisions quickly, particularly while in a state of shock and distress. This may be alongside intense hormonal changes, and the physical and emotional impacts of pregnancy, miscarriage, termination (i.e. TFMR), and/or childbirth.

Below is some general information that may be helpful – whether for yourself, or for supporting someone you care about who is navigating grief and the aftermath of losing a baby.

(This page will continue to evolve. If there are areas you feel would be helpful to include, or support options that are missing, please feel free to get in touch. Upcoming posts include links to resources/supports for baby loss support, and information about and for those who are experiencing termination for medical reasons).