Memory/Ritual ideas after losing your baby

Baby Loss
Written By Alyshia Searle

Creating memories or forming rituals can be a meaningful way to honour a loved one who has passed away, including a pēpi/baby. Below is a brief list of websites that offer information and ideas for memorialising or creating rituals specific to the little one you or your whānau/family have lost.

What feels right for you and your whānau/family can take time to navigate and may differ from what feels right for others. This process can involve some trial and error as you explore what feels right to honour your little one(s). Many people also find that over time what feels appropriate, meaningful, or manageable may change. For some, this includes introducing or changing their rituals months or even years later. There is no right or wrong way to remember your baby; your grief and your choices are valid.

Some people will have several ways of honouring their loved one, while others find that a small or subtle ritual, such as quietly acknowledging a birthday or day or the day of passing, feels sufficient.

If you are unsure where to begin, or are looking for some ideas, the below sites provide some guidance and suggestions (note: these are Aotearoa/New Zealand based sites):

Alyshia Searle

Clinical Psychologist in Christchurch